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One day they were fine. Maybe more than fine. And then something happened - something small, or something bigger - and now you can't stop noticing it. Maybe it’s the way they laugh, that thing they said, or how they looked in a specific moment. And here's the part that's making you crazy: you know somewhere that this is a little absurd. You know it. And you still cannot unfeel it.
Here's what doesn't get talked about enough: the ick can mean two very different things, and they look almost identical from the inside. It can be a genuine signal - your gut telling you something true about a real mismatch, a real incompatibility, something that actually isn't right. Or it can be a defense mechanism - your nervous system generating reasons to exit right when things started to feel real, because real things can be lost, and loss is terrifying.
How you respond to the ick depends entirely on which one it is. So that's what this worksheet helps you figure out.
What's inside:
✦ Why the ick is often an exit strategy your nervous system builds right when things start to actually matter - and how to recognize it
✦ The timing clue that tells you almost everything you need to know about what kind of ick this is
✦ The one question that cuts through all of it: if this person suddenly became less available, would the ick disappear? Because if yes - that's your answer
✦ Deep reflection prompts to get underneath what it's protecting you from
✦ A genuine values check - separating what you actually need from what your nervous system has decided to be repulsed by
✦ An honest self-assessment: real incompatibility or fear response?
✦ Sections for both outcomes - if you stay and if you go - so whatever you decide, you're deciding from truth
The ick is always giving you information. This worksheet helps you figure out what it's actually about.
Printable PDF. 18 pages. Yours forever.
One day they were fine. Maybe more than fine. And then something happened - something small, or something bigger - and now you can't stop noticing it. Maybe it’s the way they laugh, that thing they said, or how they looked in a specific moment. And here's the part that's making you crazy: you know somewhere that this is a little absurd. You know it. And you still cannot unfeel it.
Here's what doesn't get talked about enough: the ick can mean two very different things, and they look almost identical from the inside. It can be a genuine signal - your gut telling you something true about a real mismatch, a real incompatibility, something that actually isn't right. Or it can be a defense mechanism - your nervous system generating reasons to exit right when things started to feel real, because real things can be lost, and loss is terrifying.
How you respond to the ick depends entirely on which one it is. So that's what this worksheet helps you figure out.
What's inside:
✦ Why the ick is often an exit strategy your nervous system builds right when things start to actually matter - and how to recognize it
✦ The timing clue that tells you almost everything you need to know about what kind of ick this is
✦ The one question that cuts through all of it: if this person suddenly became less available, would the ick disappear? Because if yes - that's your answer
✦ Deep reflection prompts to get underneath what it's protecting you from
✦ A genuine values check - separating what you actually need from what your nervous system has decided to be repulsed by
✦ An honest self-assessment: real incompatibility or fear response?
✦ Sections for both outcomes - if you stay and if you go - so whatever you decide, you're deciding from truth
The ick is always giving you information. This worksheet helps you figure out what it's actually about.
Printable PDF. 18 pages. Yours forever.